Monday, November 24, 2014

Judy  you just don't know how much your comments mean to me and thank you soooooooooo much for your encouragement and support.


weekend was pretty good but BUSY.  Cheer comp sat had to be up at 6am - it was a super beautiful day temps in 70s took N to park/playground after comp surly teenagers were invited but chose not to go and honestly I was glad they just would have complained and asked to go home about 15 minutes after we got there so N and I stayed until dark.  These two dads with two kids each that I think were brothers too entertained all the kids on the playground for a good hour with the flying fox cable thingy the other moms and I were like we should be paying them lol

went to the hs playoff game sat night and was having a good time til the 2nd quarter and K asks to go to car and get her phone - she wsa with a boy - and I said you have 10 minutes and then she proceeds to ignore my phone calls/texts til I actually leave to go check on them and meet them coming in the gate.  We left I told her she was grounded and she has the nerve to act like she doesn't understand.  January can't come soon enough.  She is just not even trying.  I'm afraid to punish her too much because I'm afraid she will hurt herself - you can't parent like that.  So she is going to have to go somewhere where she can't hurt herself AND she is given limits and learns how to accept them.  Everytime I give her the benefit of the doubt she plays me for a fool again.

Friday, November 21, 2014

lots going on not sure why I haven't posted but I'm just gonna jump back in to the present:

1.  CPS thing still not over but I think it will be soon had to send in release to counselor could talk to social worker (um didn't have to sign a release when she reported me! lol)

2.  tax thing fixed - sent in copies of my taxes and birth certificates they have retracted the lock in letter designating me as single no allowances back to my original status YAY!!!

3. K not much better - she was doing pretty well and then bam crashes and burns again.  Hope is on the horizon changing her to a program recommended by school for 6-8 weeks if she doesn't do better then looks like she will be going to residential treatment center for up to 3 months maybe 6 - they call it.

4.   looks like K and M's dad lost/quit his job, no child support this month :( bummer

5.  M's team won their cheer comp this past weekend YAY!!!!  She was so happy.

6.  Car at dealership this morning hopefully fixing the shocks and door handle problem thank god it's still under warranty!

7.  Been feeling a little lonely lately for someone to share my life with and feeling like that is never gonna happen for me due to my situation.  Just don't think the girls will be able to handle it especially K.

8.  Gonna start working on a plan - I know I've said it before but at least I have good intentions!

Wednesday, November 5, 2014

well haven't posted in some time - life just gets in the way sometimes.

turns out my daughter M's therapist is the one that made the report to CPS AND it turns out this was from something that my daughter told her in August AND in her notes it wasn't real clear AND she got it wrong - yes she waits a month to report it but she's a mandatory reporter - I was furious.  When we went to therapy the next week M told her therapist about it and she realized she had made a mistake in what she reported, she at least was man enough to take responsibility and let me know that she was the one but I'm still blown away by this.  Granted she has not known us that long - M's original therapist got a new job - but still, don't you think you would be SURE of what you heard before you report it?  However, since the therapist has admitted her mistake this will hopefully blow over with no problem, it already would be I think but the original worker is no longer on that unit and the case is being reassigned - ridiculous.

Got a letter from the IRS and my exemption is being changed to single due to the tax shenanigans by the ex.  I normally claim 8 because I always get money back at the end of the year and I want my money during the year not as a lump sum at the end because as a single mother of three with NO child support, I need all the money I can get.  So, supposed to get my first paycheck like that this week, this will be a bad month financially.  I have contacted the tax payer advocate and they are going to assist me with getting it changed to 4, but that will probably take up to 30 days.

Luckily the girls seem to be doing ok right now (knock on wood), so that is one thing to be thankful for and I am because ultimately that is the most important thing.

Pray for us please.